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South Florida couple pour souls into aid for Vietnamese street kids

 

By ROBERT NOLIN and MAYA BELL

Web-posted:     12:53 a.m. Apr. 30, 2000

 

 

MIAMI -- He was a warrior who for 13 years carried a gun. She was in college, studying literature.

They had yet to meet when each fled Vietnam more than two decades ago, but Minh Thai Vu and his future wife, Ngoc Anh Huynh, had much in common: lives as shattered as their war-scarred homeland -- a homeland they’re now trying to rebuild one child at a time.

April 30, 1975, the day South Vietnam surrendered to communist invaders, was beginning and end for Vu and Huynh. They left behind spouses, children and a ruined country. Then each set off for the uncharted territory of the American Dream.

During the past quarter-century they achieved that dream, prospered, raised children and mended their wounded souls. Then a trip to a graveyard three years ago in their native land brought them full circle. Now they’re focused once again on Vietnam, opening their hearts to the hungry children of a still-stricken nation.

From a well-appointed home in Kendall with a tranquil orchid garden, they operate a nonprofit foundation to provide food, clothing and schooling for a handful of Vietnam’s estimated 19,000 street kids. Currently, they support about 225 homeless children in three government shelters around the country.

Novices in the art of fund-raising, the couple have exhausted their savings and rely on Vu’s exterminating business -- and generous customers -- to keep their operation afloat.

“All my retirement money gone after 21



years of working in the United States,” Vu said.

Twenty-five years ago, Vu was a battle-hardened soldier for South Vietnam, far removed from the unassuming, tea-sipping man he is today.

There were firefights, “so many I don’t remember,” and he was wounded six times.

 

 

It grew worse when South Vietnam surrendered.

“I stayed until the last minute on April 30 when Saigon fell,” Vu said. “By that time, everybody was crazy.

“Crazy,” agreed Huynh. “Gunfire everywhere.”

Vu had a wife and three children. He urged them to leave the smoldering country, but his wife opted to stay. “I lost my family, I lost everything,” he said.

In the confusion, Vu made his way to the coast, where he and other soldiers commandeered a fishing vessel and took to sea. Fifteen days later, a U.S. aircraft carrier picked them up.

Huynh, 50, “Annie” to her American friends, was also married and had two babies. She fled Saigon with them, but like Vu’s, her spouse opted to remain. He died two years later.

In 1979, by then both American citizens, Vu and Huynh found themselves in Harrisburg, Pa.., where Huynh was a student. Vu heard about the pretty Vietnamese woman and sought her out.

“I was so lonely,” he said. “I had a very sad, broken life.”

They fell in love, married, and raised Huynh’s two children, Bao Nga Nguyen and Huy, who are studying at Nova Southeastern University and Florida International University, respectively. Eventually the couple moved to Miami, where Vu worked as an exterminator and later established his own thriving business, Rodi Pest Control. Huynh studies computer science and teaches Vietnamese children.

Under his wife’s gentle tutelage, the tough soldier reacquainted himself with his Buddhist religion. He softened his ways. “She said to obey and forgive, to keep your mind peaceful,” Vu said.

“Now, when his old friends see him again, they don’t recognize him,” Huynh said with a laugh.

Cemetery living



Vu rebuffed his wife’s prodding to accompany her on a visit to the country where communists had imprisoned his friends. So in June 1997, Huynh returned without him to the land she loved.

What she saw in her hometown of Da lat, a city in central Vietnam, again changed her life’s direction. She went to a cemetery, seeking her grandmother’s grave. Instead she found two fresh-faced boys who would become the first of “her” children.

Their home was among the tombs. They dug up graves and collected the bones, later to be cremated, to make room for new corpses. Their wage: about 75 cents a day.

Everywhere Huynh looked she saw the lost children. With empty stares they begged on the street for food or money. Young children clutching younger siblings. Children carrying their belongings in ragged garbage sacks. Children eating runny eggs from scrawny chickens. None could afford to go to school.

In Hue, she asked a shoeshine boy where his parents were. He had no idea what a parent was.

Huynh was heartbroken by such stark contrast to life in the bountiful United States. “I feel sad, so terrible,” she recalled. “After 25 years living here, you see so many beautiful things.”

She left money for school for the young cemetery dwellers. Then she thought: I can go back and forth to help them, and others. Such help is needed.

“Vietnam is stagnant,” said Carlyle Thayer, a professor with the Asia-Pacific Center for Security Studies in Honolulu. “It’s down at the bottom of world standards. Vietnam is being compared to Bangladesh and the other basket cases.

The United Nations Children’s Fund, or UNICEF, estimates that 19,000 children, a tenfold increase since 1993, live on the streets of Vietnam. In a country with an unemployment rate of up to 8 percent, they spend time working petty jobs to survive and have nothing left to pay for school.

Until economic reforms in 1986, the communist government provided free schooling. Now, students must pay.

Today, families trek from the country to the city, competing for rare jobs. There is a high birth rate, and parents often can’t afford to care for their kids, who then go begging.

“They should be going to school, and there’s nothing effectively being done about it,”



Thayer said.

Back home in Miami after her first trip, Huynh grew depressed. She lost interest in work as well as 10 pounds. “She kept lying down on the couch, crying,” said Vu, who suspected she was having an overseas affair.

Huynh begged Vu to return with her to Vietnam but wouldn’t tell him why. “Come back with me and see with your own eyes," she said. Finally, Vu relented.

In December 1997, the couple returned to Da lat. Huynh took her still unsuspecting husband to the graveyard to meet her bone-digging boys.

“When they saw her they were yelling and screaming and crying and hugging her,” Vu recalled. “They said, ‘You’re an angel come from nowhere.”’

A fragile existence

The couple traveled the country in a 1987 clunker of a van. The once-stately home where Vu grew up in Phan Thiet had been converted into an office. On the sidewalk outside, under a dirty plastic tarp, lived a mother and four children. For days, their only food was the sugar cane stalks the youngsters sucked.

“Looking at Vietnam and the way it is, it broke my heart,” Vu said.

Vu and Huynh met with social services agencies, which operate Street Children’s Centers throughout the country, and pledged to contribute money to provide the neediest kids with hot meals, schooling and shelter until age 18.

They started with 50 children, giving each $100 a year to pay for food, housing and school. The fragility of existence there eventually cost the life of one of the graveyard children, who died of disease when he couldn’t get the proper medicine.

“I said, I’m going to be broke pretty soon, but that’s OK,” Vu said. “I would help her to do it with my hand, my heart, my everything.”

They assist children in three centers across Vietnam, traveling there once or twice a year to hand money for school and food directly to parents, then accompany the parents when they pay the school. When a center needed a remodeled bathroom, Vu and Huynh hired a contractor and paid him personally. When a girl needed a new dress, the couple bought the fabric and hired a seamstress.

Huynh, whom Vu credits for their entire operation, earned a new name from her young beneficiaries: “The one who brings the heart to the children.”



A charity is born

But in the United States, the couple faced some hard realities.

“We know (how) to help, but we don’t know how to get the money,” Huynh said.

She spent hours at the library learning about charitable foundations. She took a second job to help save for “her” kids.

Vu consulted his accountant and paid a lawyer more than $6,000 to draw up articles of incorporation. In late 1998, their nonprofit charity was born: the Far East Help Foundation.

They solicited businesses and other charity groups for help. “Nobody responded,” Vu said. “It’s very sad.” A Web page (www.fareasthelp. org) goes largely ignored.

They organized a fund-raising dinner and lost $4,000 when not enough donors showed up. Their strongest commitment comes from Vu’s “heart customers,” 25 of his exterminating clients who pay $25 a month to sponsor a child. The rest comes from the couple’s salaries.

But the old soldier and his gentle wife are undaunted, still full of faith. Vu totes photo scrapbooks of Vietnamese children and reams of foundation material on his exterminating calls. Huynh keeps mailing out corporate requests for donations.

“I believe one of these days somebody’s going to help us out,” Vu said.

Besides, the intangible returns of their work are too great for them to give up now.

“The foundation is our life,” Vu said. “We receive happiness from the children, we receive the big smiles on their faces when we come back, we receive their love -- our picture on their heart.”

The Far East Help Foundation can be

reached at 14543 Sw 97th St., Miami, FL

33186, or at 305-752-6954, fax at 305-387-

0251, or e-mail at hngocanh@yahoo.com.

 

Robert Nolin can be reached at rnolin@sun­sentinel.com or by calling 954-572-2024.

 

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